There are some instant deal-breakers that are very difficult to come back from. Read and remember…
- Not looking anything like your photo. Everyone knows on Internet dating sites that your photo is supposed to err on the side of flattering – whether the light was being kind, or the angle hid your many chins BUT there’s an unspoken agreement that you’re supposed to resemble it vaguely. If not, then the first thing your date will think when they spot you is ‘ohhhh’. And not in a good way.
- Money. Right from the very first meeting or date, your ability to pay your way will be noted. Don’t be one of those people who is always a few seconds too slow in getting out their wallet. As that old song goes, "No romance without finance."
- Stressed and nervous. It’s natural and understandable but it’s not a major turn-on. Try to rein in your nervousness as much as possible – admitting to it up front is a good way to bond and to feel better.
- Lack of communication. It’s very difficult to build a relationship if there is little communication. Don’t make the other person guess what you’re thinking, and don’t play games by not phoning when you said you would or at all.
- Be clean. There are times that it’s good to be sweaty and times that it’s not. Make sure you get it right.
- Taboo subjects. Politics, religion and sex should all be treated with caution but do particularly check yourself before you ever bring up the subject of your ex or your mother. Both of these subjects are very high up on the list of subjects that it’s nearly impossible to discuss without it going badly wrong.
- Gadgets. Your date is hoping to spend time with you and not your social network or clients, so keep gadgets off the table or out of eyesight. If you do need to take a phone call or deal with something, then make this clear up front and once it’s done, put your electronics away.
- Just out of a relationship. This is a tricky subject as it’s often a major deterrent to new partners looking for uncomplicated romance so best to keep this under wraps unless you have to be honest.
- Emotional distress. Whether it’s your last relationship, your pet’s demise or the X factor results – keep any personal distress to yourself and don’t shed tears on a date, it’s not polite.
- Talking about the future together. It’s not romantic and it’s not sweet to start planning your life together before you’ve even got to the third date so beware of scaring your partner with talk like this.