There are many ways to grab people’s attention – here are a few simple ideas that will have you stand out from a crowd in a good way:
Your body language sends out powerful signals about you and your availability. ‘Closed’ body language such as downcast eyes, crossed arms and/or legs and a failure to smile or look approachable will deter people and cause them to ‘block’ you from their view. Stand tall or lean forward, smile and keep an open body stance to ensure that people ‘see’ you.
Cast your eyes around the room/bar/area to watch out for potential targets and to ensure that they catch your eye if they’re looking. Even if you’re out with one other person and deep in conversation, by looking round as you talk plus keeping your body open to the area/room, you’ll send the message that you are open to an approach/meeting. Obviously, don’t go to far and scan the room desperately, be a little more subtle than that.
As you look around, make eye contact with anyone that looks interesting or tries to catch your eye. Making eye contact is the first step to a meeting/conversation and is one of the easiest ways to send out the message that you might be interested. Known scientifically as the ‘copulatory gaze’, eye language is one of the strongest and most primitive messages that you can send to another single so make it worthwhile. And keep the eye contact during your first conversation, it’ll make you seem more open, more sincere and more attractive. Of course you’ll want to check out the rest of the package subtley, but focus on the eyes and you’ll have them eating out of your hand.
If you want to get yourself noticed, then it’s worth making sure that you’re pushing lots of buttons with your conversational style. Ask lots of questions, laugh a lot, flirt with anyone that approaches you and ensure that anyone watching you would think that you are a very interesting and popular person as you look very easy to talk to.
And finally, you need to project self-confidence if you want to attract the right sort of attention. Dancing on the bar will get you noticed but for the wrong reasons – if you’re using your body language to radiate confidence and you appear to be comfortable with whom you are, you should have no problem in getting approached. Remember that self-confidence starts with your external body language and appearance, so know that you look good and stand tall. Smile at those you’re talking to and spread that smile round the room when you look about you. If you know that you’re a good catch, then you’ll find it very easy to convince others of the same thing.